The end of a relationship is always a tough time. One minute you are in a happy, stable and committed relationship. The next minute you are kicking your boyfriend to the curb or wondering what went wrong. No matter what caused the relationship to crash and burn, there are some things you should never do. Here are 10 of them.
#1. Drown Your Feelings in Ice Cream
There is nothing wrong with giving yourself a treat now and then, but an ice cream sundae is no substitute for a great relationship. The next time you feel like wallowing in self-pity (and sweet treats), try getting up and going for a walk. Better yet, enroll in an exercise class and work out your frustrations with some weight lifting or aerobics.
#2. Drink Yourself Into Oblivion
Nothing is sadder than drinking alone, and drowning your woes in alcohol is always a bad idea. Instead of watching TV with a bottle of wine, invite your girlfriends over for a fun night. You can spend time trashing your exes and planning your futures.
#3. Jump Back into the Fire
There is a reason rebound relationships have the reputation they do. If the last boyfriend was bad, what makes you think the next one will be a knight in shining armor? Give yourself time to heal and make time for yourself before you restart the search for Mr. Right.
#4. Feel Sorry for Yourself
The breakup of a relationship is always tough, but there is no reason to blame yourself or indulge in self pity. There will be plenty of time for introspection later on. Now is the time to pick yourself up, dust yourself up and move on. Your relationship status is not a reflection of your worth, and you should not treat it that way.
#5. Fear the Single Life
Being single might be tough, but being in a bad relationship is even worse. If you let your fear of single life take over, you may be exchanging the frying pan for the fire. Instead of fearing being single, just make time for yourself and enjoy your newfound freedom.
#6. Trash Your Ex on Social Media
It might feel good to talk trash about your ex on Facebook or post embarrassing pics on your Instagram account, but in the end it will just make matters worse. Feel free to go through your snapshots and cut out your ex’s picture – just don’t get the Internet involved.
#7. Pretend Everything is OK
You and your boyfriend just broke up. No matter what the reason, it is normal to be emotional and feel upset. Pretending that everything is just fine will just make matters worse. Feel free to scream, cry and even throw things. It is all part of the healing process.
#8. Obsess Over His New Love
Obsessing over your ex’s new girlfriend will not make you feel better. In fact it might make you feel like a stalker. Resist the urge to look her up on Facebook or call her at work. Just let it go and know that she will soon be on the receiving end of all your ex boyfriend’s issues.
#9. Keep Calling Him
Calling and texting him 100 times a day will do nothing but run up your phone bill and make you feel terrible. If he really was a jerk, you should not want him back. Just let it go and move on with your life.
#10. Reconnect with an Old Ex
You just got rid of one guy. The last thing you need is to hook up with another guy you already know wasn’t right for you. Resist the urge to look up your ex high school boyfriend or your old prom date. All you will do is rekindle some uncomfortable feelings.
Are you struggling to get over your ex? You know you need to move on but it’s just so damn hard to let go. No matter what you do, you just can’t thinking about them. You’ve tried to move on and date other people but you just can’t seem to the feel the same way about anyone else. If you’re sick of being hurt and heartbroken, click here to check out the video that can help cure your break-up pain.