10 Ways to End a Relationship with Tact

There are three ways to end a relationship, tactfully, dramatically, or going ghost.  Needless to say the last two ways are the least recommended, but unfortunately the way most relationships end.

Whether you dated someone for 60 days, six months, or were in a relationship for decades, the decision to end a relationship is painful. Depending on the circumstances, sometimes it’s tempting to want to hurt your ex as a way of validating your anger and sadness. The immediate urge to protect your wounded ego can cause you to lose perspective and say or do things you might regret when your anger abates.

So, regardless of how much anguish you feel, please try to keep your dissolution dignified.  The more ethical you act the better you will feel.  The faster you shed the shroud of negativity from the breakup the faster you will heal and move on.

Here are 10 ways to gracefully end your relationship:

Be civil

Strive to be kind and respectful in-person and through your written correspondence. Avoid being spiteful or passive aggressive.

You CAN handle the truth

The truth always finds a way of rising to the surface. You would not want your ex spreading lies about you; don’t be tempted to distort the truth.

No negative vibes

Never say anything disparaging in public (even if it’s true). People will perceive you as petty and heartless if you are constantly saying negative remarks about your ex. Furthermore, persistent negativity will keep you in a negative state. Practice staying polite and positive.

Plan ahead

When you know you need to engage in verbal or written correspondence with your ex, review your strategy. Plan out what you would like to convey (as courteously as possible). This will definitely help deter you from saying something you may regret.

Display poise and maturity

When encountering your ex’s family, friends, colleagues, etc. represent yourself to the best of your ability. Don’t let them bate you. Maintain your dignity; always take the high road.

Practice generosity

Agree to split your accumulated assets equally. Know when to let your ex have something they desperately want – or legally deserve. Avoid the temptation of greed.

Exhibit empathy

If your ex (compassionately) reaches out to you via phone, email, or text for an appropriate reason, always send them some type of reasonable response. Habitual silence can be exceptionally devastating during the initial phase of a breakup.

Use a prepared script

When dealing with friends and family, stick to a standard statement as to why your relationship ended. Rehearse what you are going to say; memorize your script. This will reduce your anxiety and keep you sharp in social settings. (I know this is an overstated point, but please, never say disparaging remarks about your ex on social media.)

Know when to ask for help

If the two of you can not end your relationship amicably, ask for the assistance of a mediator. Also, if you are struggling and can not get beyond your breakup, seek out the services of an experienced therapist.

It’s all for the children

If you have children, put their needs before your own. Your children are your primary responsibility; focus on their health and happiness. Additionally, do not disrespect your ex in front of your children. Adult acrimony and apathy should never impair a child’s development.

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