It is often said that we’re our own worst enemies and despite the cliche, the idea rings true. We often drive ourselves insane striving for unobtainable perfection in our experiences, relationships, and selves. This constant aim at perfection is exhausting and unnecessary. So ladies to make life a little less stressful and more joyous, let’s try to stop doing these 14 things.
1. Stop Trying to Compete Against Everyone
Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on improving yourself. The things that others have or have achieved may not be what you need to make you happy. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
2. Stop Being Jealous of Others
Jealousy and envy are two of the most common and yet negative emotions. Being jealous of others not only makes you miserable, it also makes it harder to get ahead in your career and reach your goals. Jealousy is counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.
3. Stop Trying to Hold on to The Past
One of the biggest issues so many of us have is holding on to the hurt or the pain of what happened years ago. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one. The sooner you can let go of the past, the sooner you can get on with the now.
4. Stop Holding Grudges
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you despise. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
5. Stop Letting Others Bring You Down to Their Level
Don’t lower your standards for anyone, or feel bad about keeping your standards high. By refusing to lower your standards you will weed out the negative people in your life. Never lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. You will create more meaningful, lasting relationships by doing this.
6. Stop Wasting Time Explaining Yourself to Others
Your friends don’t need an explanation and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right and what makes you happy.
7. It’s The Small Things That Counts
Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the things that meant the most. Some of the best portions of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
8. Practice Does Not Always Make Perfect
Stop trying to make things perfect.. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
9. Stop Following The Path of Least Resistance
Taking the path of least resistance is a fact of nature. Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. If you don’t like the results you’re getting in some aspect of your life – your economic situation, your personal situation, your health, – it’s time to take a new path, one that’s not so easy. Opportunity rewards people who step outside their comfort zone.
10. Stop Blaming Others For Your Troubles
It’s easier to blame others for your problems than it is to take responsibility for them. It’s easier to blame others for holding you back than it is to take action and improve. If you blame some outside force then you can’t be held accountable for your situation. Keep doing this and you will never be truly successful or happy.
11. Stop Trying to Be Everything to Everyone
Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
12. Stop Worrying so Much
Worrying can be helpful when it spurs you to take action and solve a problem. But if you’re preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem. Unrelenting doubts and fears can be paralyzing. They can sap your emotional energy, send your anxiety levels soaring, and interfere with your daily life. You have to train your brain to stay calm and look at life from a more positive perspective.
13. No Negative Vibes
Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst. Try thinking positive thoughts for what you want to happen.
14. Viewing food as the enemy. Women often receive the message that our ultimate worth lies in our looks. Our hair should be perfectly styled, our makeup on at all times — but natural-looking — and our bodies bangin’ (read: thin). In the quest to achieve these impossible standards, it’s easy to see food as the enemy rather than something to enjoy. Be cognizant of what you put in your body — after all, it’s the only one you have — but try to do away with the guilt. Savor every bite of that cheese cake or that perfectly cooked steak. Just remember moderation, food should not come with regrets.