15 Signs Your Man is Insecure

Very early in the relationship, he professes his undying love for you. Part of you feels like Rudolph when Clarice tells him he’s cute. You could fly through the air while shouting, “He loves me! He loves me! He loves me!” But the sane part of you feels like, He loves me? Wait, what? This is our third date. That’s crazy-talk.

It takes time to get to know someone enough to love them and if your new boyfriend is telling you he loves you right off the bat, it should sound warning bells, especially if he pressures you into saying it back to him.

4. He tells you that you’re his everything–and he means it.

You’re his world, the center of his universe, his reason for living. At first it may seem flattering to be valued so highly, but being the center of one’s world, isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. That’s too much pressure to live up to. And what happens when you hit a bump in the road in your relationship? When things aren’t going smoothly, his world falls apart. He falls apart because you are his world.

5. He needs to constantly be reassured.

He frequently asks you questions like, “Do you love me?” He fishes for compliments. Then when you assure him that you do find him attractive, he doesn’t believe you. Everyone likes to hear that they’re loved, pretty, talented, attractive, intelligent and desired, but his needs go beyond those of the rest of us. He generally suffers from low self-esteem, which incidentally is the driving force behind many of his insecure behaviors.

6. He’s jealous of your friends.

He’s jealous of the time you spend with your friends. He doesn’t like you to meet coworkers after work for happy hour, he doesn’t like you going shopping with girlfriends, and heaven forbid you have any platonic relationships with men. He frequently calls and texts to check up on you when you’re out without him.