“It’s natural to feel a sense of pain and loss when someone who was meaningful to you disappears,” says Levine. “The closer you were, the longer it will take you to recover.” But while venting about your confusion and anger to friends and family can help, so can not talking about it. “Don’t keep ruminating about what happened,” says Levine. “People will grow tired of hearing the same story—and repeating it continually won’t allow you to heal.”
And while it’s never wise to bury the more serious feelings (like severe depression), try to do your best to discuss something—anything—else. “Don’t make the mistake of thinking that closure takes two,” says Levine. “It’s something you can achieve on your own.” You don’t need that ghost to get there. -Chrissy S.