First dates can be awkward and uncomfortable. You want to do what you can to make things go a little more smoothly for both parties. If you’ve asked a woman out and are looking for ways to have a good first date, this article outlines four tips you can use.
1. Go somewhere comfortable
Sometimes people want to go above and beyond on a first date in order to impress. Going to a fancy restaurant is nice, but it may not be comfortable for both parties. Choose a first date that doesn’t require either of you to step too far out of your comfort zone. If you’re going out for a meal, choose a place that isn’t fancy, but still requires you to wear something nice. If you have a place you enjoy eating and think your date might also like it, suggest it. By knowing the place you’re going to, you can offer suggestions to your date if she is unsure what to get. First dates can be awkward, so it’s important to stay inside your comfort zone to make things a little bit easier. You may also decide to opt for a date that doesn’t require a lot of eating because people can become very self-conscious when eating with someone new.
2. Let the conversation flow naturally
You might have a list of questions that you want to ask your date, but don’t ask them as if you are doing an interview. Just one question may lead to a great conversation, so hold onto the others for another time. If conversation begins lagging, feel free to ask another one. Never attempt to force conversation. Allow for little breaks in the conversation as well. Every second doesn’t have to be filled with talking. It’s good to be prepared with a few conversational topics, but don’t feel like you need to get through them all in one night.
3. Be a gentleman
You don’t have to force yourself to do things you wouldn’t normally do. Pulling out a chair for a woman is nice but not required. Opening doors, on the other hand, never goes out of style. Remember your manners at all times. If you tend to swear a lot, control yourself a little more during the first date. You shouldn’t change who you are completely, but you want to put your best foot forward. Being a gentleman doesn’t only apply to how you treat your date. It’s also important to be kind and respectful to servers and people around you in general.
4. Keep the date short
Don’t plan for a date that lasts for hours. A first date should be kept somewhat short even if it’s going well. Having a meal or taking in an event together is a great first date because you have time to talk, but it’s not so long that either of you becomes antsy. It’s also good to plan short in the event that it doesn’t go well. Keep the date location close to where you both live. If you live a distance apart, plan something where you can meet in the middle.
If you follow the above tips, you can be sure you’ll impress your date. By avoiding any pressure of making the first date the most memorable, expensive, or fanciest date ever, you can both enjoy yourselves much more. -By: aprilaragam