When you’re looking for someone to seriously date, you don’t want to scare them off unintentionally. You don’t want to pretend you are someone you’re not, but you don’t want to exhibit certain behaviors either. This article outlines four things you might be doing to scare men off.
1. You shower him with attention
This might seem like a good thing to do when you’re into someone, but too much attention can be overwhelming. If you think that giving your boyfriend all of your attention will keep him close to you, you will be shocked to find that you are only pushing him away. It’s important to be balanced in how much attention you shower on your boyfriend. If you’re always there, eager to please him, he might be scared off by thinking you have nothing else to do with your time and that he will never have any time for himself.
2. You vent to him a lot
A boyfriend is not a therapist. He doesn’t want to hear about how your old high school rival is back in town and all of the horrible things she did to you fifteen years ago. He doesn’t want to hear for the fifth time how your brother is such a jerk for not answering your emails. It’s good to tell your boyfriend what’s happening in your life and even ask him for advice. But don’t constantly vent to him. If you don’t allow him to speak, he will get bored and annoyed. It can’t be all about you, all the time.
3. You are high maintenance
High-maintenance women are hard to deal with. You might be one if you are constantly late for dates, expect dates to be expensive, always put a monetary value on gifts that your man gives you, and need to be reassured that you look good every five minutes. High-maintenance women are often insecure and some men find it exhausting to have to reassure a women of her worth constantly. Men don’t find insecure women attractive for long, and unless they have deep pockets, they can’t afford to keep up their high maintenance ways.
4. You act tough
It’s totally fine to be an independent, strong, and goal-oriented woman, but if you are angry and act tough all the time, you will scare men off. It’s not that men want you to be weak and helpless, (a good man will embrace your strong qualities) they just don’t want a woman who acts manlier and more aggressive than they do all the time.
If you are guilty of committing any of the above dating habits, it might be time to break them and find (and keep) the guy of your dreams.