Most of us believe that we love and respect ourselves, but is that what the outside world sees? If you allow people to treat you badly, take advantage of you, constantly belittle you, or lack confidence in yourself, you are not as self-respecting as you think. This article lists four ways you can start respecting yourself more immediately.
1. Speak up
Sometimes we have to use our outside voices inside to make sure we are heard. If something bothers you speak up! If someone does something you don’t like, you have to tell them, otherwise they will think the behavior is acceptable, and it will continue. Let them know in an assertive tone that you will not tolerate being treated badly. They will either respect you for speaking up or call you a bitch and leave you alone. Either way you win.
2. Let people go
There is no reason to keep people in your life who disrespect you and treat you badly. Even if you must have contact with someone because of a custody settlement or a work situation, there are ways to minimize physical contact and once again speak up. If you have to have contact with someone make sure they understand you will NOT tolerate disrespect. Don’t give someone the opportunity or allow them to bash or make you feel miserable.
3. Don’t settle
Not settling for less than you want is one of the greatest ways you can respect yourself. If you want something, go get it. If it’s not available right now, wait for it. Don’t settle for a mediocre version because you think that’s all you will get. Anything worth having is worth working hard for and waiting a little longer to have. Don’t let anyone try to convince you that you dream too big, want too much, or don’t deserve what you desire.
4. Take care of yourself