No matter how good a relationship is and how much two people love each other, there are some things that can test the strength of any relationship. Everyone has a limit as to what they can handle and what they are willing to put up with. It’s important to realize that certain behaviors can be enough to ruin an otherwise good and stable relationship. These behaviors apply to both men and women. If you want less stress in you life, don’t invite unnecessary drama into your relationship.
1. You’re extremely jealous
Extreme jealousy can quickly ruin a good relationship. Becoming jealous any time your partner looks at or speaks to someone of the opposite sex is extreme. You can’t expect your partner to avoid everyone. This kind of jealousy will make your partner feel as though you don’t trust him. Someone who isn’t doing anything wrong should never be made to feel as if they are.
2. You flirt with other people
If you flirt with other people regularly, you are at risk of ruining your relationship. There is nothing wrong with a little harmless flirtation now and again to remind yourself that other people besides your partner are into you. If you’re flirting with everyone you pass on the street and giving out your number to strangers who are interested in you, this is a big problem that will begin to fracture your relationship.
3. You stalk your partner’s exes
It’s likely that anyone you date as an adult will have had at least one past relationship. Don’t drive yourself crazy and go digging into your partner’s past and into the life of his ex. This may bring up information or photos that you would rather not know about. Unless you have a concrete reason to believe otherwise, accept whatever your partner wants to tell you about past relationships and leave it at that. Trying to figure out who your partner’s exes are, why they broke up, or if she is still into your man is a waste of time and will only cause trouble between you and your partner.
4. You try to change your partner
You entered into a relationship with your partner with all of his flaws and imperfections, so it’s important to remember all of the reasons you love your partner instead of trying to change the things that you think don’t work or you simply aren’t a fan of. It’s great for couples to get out and try new things together, but don’t attempt to turn your partner from a comic book geek into a ballroom dancer. Trying to change someone who doesn’t want to be changed will upset both of you and destroy your relationship.
Being in a healthy relationship requires that both people be secure, understanding, and level-headed. You may not intentionally decide to sabotage your relationship, but by exhibiting the above behaviors, that will be the end result.