If you you’re interested in a man, but you can’t seem to pin down exactly where you stand with him, this may be because you’re being strung along. If you’re being strung along, it means that a man is keeping you around for when he wants to talk or be intimate. When he doesn’t want something, he’s hard to get hold of. Here are five signs that you are probably being strung along.
1. He can’t find a second to text you
We are all busy with our lives. We have work, errands to run, and family and friends to keep in touch with. If a man is truly interested in you, he will will find a second in his day to check in. If he rarely texts you good morning, goodnight, or to ask how your day is going, you’re probably being strung along. He may have a handful of women that he’s stringing along and he simply rotates through the group. He might not be able to keep in touch hourly, but a man who likes you will find the time give you a call or shoot you a text.
2. He’s vague about where he’s been
If the man you’re interested in finally does decide to text or call you, but says nothing about where he’s been or what he’s been doing, this may be a sign that you’re being strung along. He feels no need to mention where he’s been for the past few days, weeks, or even months. You might not be expecting a detailed account of where he’s been, but when he avoids telling you his whereabouts, this becomes suspicious. People usually like to share what they’ve been doing with someone they like.
If there was an emergency, he was called out of town, or was busy with a new work project, these aren’t things one would typically keep to themselves. People only hold back information when there is something to hide.
3. He’s selective about what he tells you
Aside from not telling you where he’s been, the man you’re interested in might stick to sharing only certain areas of his life with you if he’s stringing you along. He will never seem to vary from talking about his dog or his workouts. If he prefers to be vague in his details and avoids answering certain questions you ask him, this is a red flag. Someone who want you in his life will want to let you in on more than just a couple chosen areas.
4. He’s charming when he needs to be
When the man you’re interested in returns after a week of silence and proceeds to call you “baby” and tell you how much he’s missed you, it will be easy to forgive him because those good feelings will be brought back. He’s completely aware of what he’s doing when he flirts with you, so don’t be fooled. This cycle will repeat until you put an end to it.
5. He doesn’t want to define your relationship
One day he will act like you’re buddies and the next he’s being romantic and talking about a possible future. You never seem to know where you stand when he’s running hot and cold all the time. When you ask, he doesn’t want to define what you are and “ruin a good thing.” This leaves you in a state of limbo with him deciding what he wants from you and when he wants it.
Being emotionally invested in a man who is stringing you along isn’t easy. The best way of dealing with it is to separate yourself from him completely, so that he can’t come back only to get your hopes up once again. This is selfish behavior that you don’t deserve. -Lisa P.