When you’ve been dating a man for a while, you want to consider if you’re ready to commit to him. Commitment doesn’t always refer to something huge such as engagement. It could mean not dating anyone else and beginning to plan a future together. Here are five signs that you’re not ready to commit to the man you’re dating.
1. You fantasize about life with other people
If you fantasize about life with other people, you might not be ready to commit to the man you’re dating. You may compare him to an ex-boyfriend of yours or you may wonder if someone you haven’t even met yet is better suited to you. If you can’t focus on the man you’re with and be excited about your future together because you think the grass is greener on the other side, you’re probably not ready to commit to him.
2. You won’t introduce him to your family
If you’ve been dating your boyfriend for a while and you’re still hesitant to introduce him to your family, this may be a sign that you’re not ready to commit to him. You may like him and enjoy his company, but by not bringing him around your friends and family it shows that you’re not ready to bring him deeper into your world.
3. You don’t like to compromise
If you like things your way or the highway, you are probably not ready to commit to anyone. Compromise is very important when you’re dating someone. The men you’re dating cannot always be expected to cater to your wants. You want to make decisions together. Relationships are all about communication and knowing what both of you wants and how you can make you both happy. If you’re mostly concerned about your happiness, you may not be ready to commit to your boyfriend.
4. You have backups
If you have male friends that you keep on hand just in case your relationship ends, you may not be ready for a commitment. It’s not good for your relationship to keep backups around. It’s important to focus on your relationship if you like your boyfriend. If you think of another man as potential future boyfriend, you will become emotionally attached to that man and spend more time focused on him. If you find that you need to have backups, you may not feel secure in your relationship, which means you aren’t ready to commit.
5. You make vacation and holiday plans without your boyfriend
If you don’t consider your boyfriend when making holiday plans, this may be an indication that you aren’t ready for a commitment. While you don’t have to take every vacation with him you may want to discuss plans and ideas with him. As a couple, things such as vacations and holidays are important. If you’re not ready to go away with him, you may not be ready for a commitment.
If you’re not ready to fully commit to the man you’re with, it doesn’t mean you have to end your relationship. You should think about the things that worry you and see if you can work on them together as a couple. Or you can check out this video presentation to give you some insights on how to get what you want from your man.