If you’re dating a man and wondering if you’re ready to take the next step, you want to make sure he’s the right man for you. You want to be able to recognize not only positive qualities but the negative as well. Here are six signs that the man you’re dating might not be the right man for you.
1. He doesn’t consider your needs
If the man you’re dating thinks more about himself and what he wants, he might be too selfish to be the right man for you. It’s important that your needs are considered as well as his. If you mention wanting to visit the museum for your weekend date and he blows off your idea for what he thinks is a better date, your interests are being ignored. Relationships are about compromise. You might not always want to do what he does, but you will because you love him. He should be willing to do the same because your needs matter to him. This type of man probably isn’t the man for you.
2. There’s a lack of trust
If either you or the man your dating lacks trust in the other, this is a sign that he might not be the man for you. Trust is required in a romantic relationship. If you or your boyfriend have trust issues because of past relationships, that is something that needs to be dealt with. Trust issues can lead to controlling behavior, manipulations, and accusations that you will feel the need to defend yourself again. A lack of trust in a relationship can cause you to walk on eggshells around your boyfriend to avoid upsetting him or making him think you’re hiding something.
3. You can’t turn to him for comfort
If you’re going to spend your life with someone, it should be a man you know you can go to when you need comfort. Life isn’t always good times and celebrations. There are going to be bad days and disappointments to deal with. When you’re dating a man, you should be able to go to him with any problems that you’re having. This doesn’t mean you should vent to him constantly about drama with friends and family, but when you have a legitimate problem you need to discuss and get feedback on you should be able to turn to him. A man who loves you should be eager to comfort you when you need it.
4. He wants different things from life
You can love your boyfriend more than you’ve loved anyone else, but if you dream of getting married and having a family and he doesn’t, he’s not the right man for you. You can’t make a man change his mind about these things. You also shouldn’t change your mind about things that matter to you in order to keep a man. If you know what you want in life and your boyfriend doesn’t want those things, he’s not the right man for you.
5. He takes out his frustrations on you
If the man you’re dating has a stressful life and deals with it by lashing out at you, he is not the man you should be with. You are not an emotional punching bag for a boyfriend. If he blames you when things don’t go right, this is a red flag and you should get out of the relationship. This behavior is unacceptable from anyone you’re dating and you shouldn’t even consider moving forward with someone who acts like this when things don’t go his way.
6. You’re disinterested in sex
If you’re not interested in touching, kissing, or having sex with your boyfriend, this is something you need to think about when deciding when to move forward. Intimacy is an important part of a romantic relationship. If you have no desire to be intimate with your boyfriend, it’s probably not a good idea to move the relationship forward. You might be better off as friends than as a couple who doesn’t have sex. If your boyfriend is the one who is disinterested in sex, you should address your concerns with him and find out why he’s not interested and see if you can do anything to help the situation as a couple.
During the dating period of a relationship is when you should be on the look out for red flags that warn you to not take the relationship further. No matter how much you love someone it’s important to look at the reality of your relationship and decide if you can live that way for many years. -by Lisa P.