6 Signs the Man You’re Dating is Toxic

Relationships shouldn’t  be stressful and destructive.

You might be used to certain behaviors in your relationships but if you’re dating a toxic man he can make you feel insecure, scared and even worthless.  Here are six signs of a toxic man.

1. He tries to talk his way out of lies
Lying is bad enough, but if he can’t even admit he’s lied, that’s an even bigger red flag. People tell lies for minor reasons sometimes. He might be insecure and feel that lying will make him look better. If you catch him in a lie and he attempts to talk his way out of it or tries to convince you that it isn’t as bad as you’re making it look, he might be a toxic man. He will make you feel like you’re overreacting and trying to make him look bad. It’s important that you trust the facts and your gut, and not allow him to make you question yourself.

2. He’s dependent
It’s nice when someone wants to be with you a lot, but when your boyfriend can’t do anything without you, or needs you to take care of him, he might be toxic. You are not in his life to take care of him and make sure all his needs are met. A dependent man will wear you down emotionally, mentally, and physically. When you’re dating someone, you want a partner in life, not someone who needs you to entertain him, feed him, do his laundry, or spend your life attached to his side.

3. He wants to control you
A man can appear to be caring, but if he tells you what you can wear, whom you can see, and where you can go, he is controlling and toxic. He might tell you he loves you so much that he wants to protect you. But remember that you are a person with your own mind, and you choose your own wardrobe and friends.

4. His moods are unpredictable
If you’re nervous about his reaction to the things you do, you are dating a toxic man. One moment he’s calm and playful, and the next he’s angry because you tell him you’re hanging with your friends after work. Unpredictable moods are difficult to deal with, tiring, and very stressful.

5. He’s self-centered
A self-centered man is toxic because he thinks he’s so important that everything should revolve around him. He will only talk about himself, expect you to do things he wants to do, and will have little interest in you and your desires. His stories about himself will be grandiose and sometimes unbelievable, but he does it because it makes him the center of attention.

6.  He calls you names (and I don’t mean honey)

Derogatory name calling is never an acceptable behavior, even if the toxic man claims to be joking. He might tell you you’re just too sensitive and can’t take a joke, but being made to feel bad about yourself is not a joke.  Especially if he’s belittling your dreams, opinions, or your past.

When you come across a man with any of these toxic qualities, it’s important to realize you won’t have the healthy relationship you’re looking for. A toxic man cannot have a healthy relationship with anyone. -By Lisa P.