I think we can all agree that having you and your girls take him for a “long ride” is not conducive to healing… at least not in the long run.
As the old Neil Sedaka song puts it, “breaking up is hard to do.” Whether you are the initiator or the receiver of the bad news, the sting of this painful declaration can leave you feeling hurt and upset for many weeks, months, or even years to come. It doesn’t matter if it is a breakup involving your first love, or the person you have spent a great deal of your adult life married to, your heart will probably ache for a while as you learn to accept your new life as a single person. Instead of wasting away on the couch eating bon-bons or your weight in potato chips and ice cream, going on drinking binges, or engaging in other self-destructive behaviors, take some time to get to know yourself again and heal your broken heart in a healthy way.
Don’t Hold Grudges
One of the worst things you can do for yourself is to hold a grudge against others. No matter who initiated the breakup, or what it was for, you can’t spend the rest of your life hating your partner and holding grudges against them. No matter how hard it seems to do at the time, try to forgive the other person, so that you can move on with your life and not be inundated with feelings of anger and stress. Over time, these feelings can lead to health problems, and this will not be helpful during your quest in finding your life once again.
Reflect and Move On