“She don’t understand him like I do.”
You are having an affair with a married man. In order to justify your behavior you keep telling yourself these ridiculous lies. You’ve repeated these lies to yourself so often that you’ve started believing them. Well it’s time to come back to reality. Wanna know what we are talking about? Here are 7 ridiculous lies mistresses keep telling themselves:
I’m his true love
Yeah, we bet that’s what he told his wife when they got married and we also bet that’s what he told the mistresses before you and he’ll probably tell the ones that will come after you. By now he knows what women want and he will do anything to keep you. The only reason you feel you are his true love is because you don’t have any responsibilities together as a couple so everything feels great. You don’t have to pay the bills, mortgages, or take care of the kids. All you do is just meet, have a great time and everybody goes home happy.
Our relationship is different
Oh, your relationship is not like those other tawdry affairs people have. You have this deep connection that you have never felt before. He respects you and takes you places no other men have ever taken you. You would give your life for this man because he is worth it.
Well, newsflash baby girl. You are just the side chic…stop promoting yourself to wife status. If he respected you he wouldn’t be with you while he’s married. So how exactly is your relationship any different from other tawdry affairs? You are still doing what other women do with married men; sneaking around behind their wives’ backs.
He will leave his family for me
So he keeps telling you he’ll leave his family when you start getting upset because he doesn’t give you as much attention as you want. He knows if you don’t stop throwing your temper tantrums he won’t be getting any sex. He paid for the hotel room and he damn sure isn’t going home without getting some. So the best way to calm you down is to promise you he’ll leave his family for you.
He will give me HIS full attention once he leaves his wife
His wife got a promotion and he just canceled dinner plans with you because they are going out to celebrate. Bummer, right? You were supposed to go away for the weekend but some family issues came up that he just couldn’t let anyone else handle them. Ugh, it seems like his family takes up all his time, doesn’t it? But if he leaves his wife for you, he will be spending all his free time with you. So quick question: when will he leave his wife for you? What makes you think he’ll be spending all his spare time with you? He’s probably going to get another mistress and spend all his time with her.
It’s not your fault he’s cheating
Okay, so maybe it’s not your fault he’s cheating but aren’t you the one encouraging the cheating? If you were this self-respecting woman you claim to be, you would tell this guy to go home to his wife and handle his shit at home.
He doesn’t want us to go out because he likes spending time indoors
He doesn’t like restaurant food. Who knows what they put in it? You want to go out to the movies? He is really not a movies guy but he doesn’t mind cuddling on the sofa with you to watch a rerun of the Sopranos. Well, if you believe this B.S not only are you blind but you are stupid. He doesn’t want to go out because he doesn’t want people to see him with you.
No one will love me the way he does
If he truly loved you, he wouldn’t be keeping you as his mistress. And if you truly think he is the only guy that will love you this much then you need to get out more and meet new people. And work on your self-esteem while you are at it.
Affairs can be very damaging to everyone involved including you. Stop telling yourself that you’re different or he loves you. Deep down you know that’s a load of bullshit. Respect yourself enough to stop the affair because obviously he doesn’t respect you, his, wife or himself enough to do it. -Lisa P.