Think you are you ready to take that next step, but you’re not sure about living with your guy every day? It goes beyond just wanting to spend time with him whenever you want, and the little things sometime can make it easier (or worse) to live with someone. Please note that these aren’t questions to ascertain if he’s your forever love, just how prepared you are to sharing the same living space.
1. Sharing Household Responsibilities
Not splitting the bills (though you should decide on that fairly quickly), but will you be splitting the chores or is your man going to expect you to take care of everything? You’re his girlfriend, not his mom, and if he’s used to a certain type of behavior when he’s living with a woman, then this is the time to know about it now. Stipulate what you need him to take care of, and what you’ll try to take care of through the week in return.
Unless stated otherwise, your intentions should be to take care of each other, not just one way or the other.
2. How much sharing is too much?
This is really about your comfort level with how intimate you’re ready to go. Are you going to be okay finding his dirty underwear on the floor and pick it up? Is he going to use the bathroom with the door open, or does he need to keep that closed? Does the bathroom have an open door policy or is he free to walk in on you in the shower? These seem like fairly small inconveniences, but after living on your own and then suddenly not, the little things could potentially add up fairly quickly.
3. Figure out your stance on pleasuring yourself and porn.
Ladies, it’s going to happen. Hopefully he knows that you probably are going to as well. It’s got nothing to do with how sexually active you are together; in fact, studies show that it can be good for your health and relaxation. So decide now where he’s comfortable with you doing this, or if he wants to hear about it at all.