9 Things to Look for Before Opening Your Heart

The best way to find love is dating with an open heart.

You’ve been through a lot, I know. You’re tired of investing time in the wrong guys, you just end up feeling frustrated and hurt at the end. You’ve work hard to finally have peace and a sense of happiness, and you don’t want to start dating some guy just to mess it up all over again.

But you still don’t want to give up on love. You want to meet the right guy. Someone who makes you feel challenged, inspired, and adored. You’re also scared.

After everything, you’re not sure how to date without being played and wasting more time.

So how do you put yourself out there and be open to love, but also protect your heart?

The answer? Openness coupled with boundaries. Yes, it’s possible!

Here are nine tips you can use to make sure it’s safe to open your heart while you’re dating:

1. Avoid a guy with obviously low self-esteem.

If he’s not going to love and value himself, he probably won’t love and value you in any significant way.

If you wind up dating a guy like this and find he has other qualities that make it worth sticking around, like he DOES treat you the way you deserve to be treated, then help him work on that self-esteem. Challenge him to be the best he can be.

2. Find out whether his values regarding family and relationships match your own.

Don’t just discuss it with him. Take a close look at his life. Does he have healthy relationships with friends and family? Does he have his finances in order?