Sometimes social media can help.
There isn’t a right or wrong way to respond to cheating. It’s a painful and deeply personal experience, and only you can decide what’s best for you after the revelation of an affair.
But advice from people who’ve experienced the same kind of pain certainly can help. Below are comments from people on Facebook and Twitter who shared their best advice for dealing with an affair, many of whom drew from their own experiences.
1. “It took me a while to get past it but what helped me was to remind myself that their behavior is their choice.”
You don’t control them. It’s possible that they won’t be happy because they’ll always be looking for someone else when the problem is within them. You, on the other hand, can handle it and carry on.
2. “Let go of the anger.”
One commented that after she finally let it go, she thanked her ex and his affair partner for the doors that were suddenly opened to her. “I deserve the best and so do you, whether you know it or not.”
3. “Cry, scream, and have a fit. You’re gonna be angry, so just let it out. There’s nothing worse than when someone tells you to pull it together.”