So you have friends who are in relationships and you give them advice from time to time or perhaps all the time…even when they don’t need your advice. You are of course doing this because you want what’s best for them. You have their best interest at heart. But, are you really helping them or meddling in their business? We have a few tips that’ll give you a clue.
- You expect your friends to drop everything when you call them
Sisters over misters, right? You expect your friends to cancel date night with their husbands or boyfriends because you want to go out and have a good time. You expect them to open their home to you whenever you feel like because you are friends. You don’t even call to say you will be dropping by. If this is you then you are a relationship meddler.
What you really don’t understand is when someone gets into a relationship, a lot of things change including the time that they spend with their friends. This is not to say that getting into a relationship means you should stop hanging out with your friends. Not at all.
It just means you have to find time for both your friends and your boyfriends. It would be unfair to give one more priority over the other. So making your friends feel guilty about not hanging out with you when they have their own lives to live makes you a meddler.
- You become judgmental