Ghosting is a term used to describe the act of breaking up with someone without actually breaking up with them. Instead of telling you they don’t want to see you or talk to you anymore, they pull a disappearing act. Usually they take their time to completely disappear leaving you to wonder what exactly is going on. Here are five signs that you are being ghosted by the man you are dating.
1. He’s always too busy to follow through on plans
A man who is ghosting you may agree to plans, but when it’s time to meet up he will suddenly have something else to do. This will happen every single time and you might assume he wants to do things with you because he never says no, but his actions tell you he doesn’t want to spend time with you.
2. His texts become fewer and farther between
A man who is ghosting you will begin to take longer to reply to texts and phone calls each time you try to get in touch. At first it might take him 12 hours to reply, then it’s 24 hours, and then you don’t hear from him for five days. You may have to text him four times before he finally replies. He won’t offer any apology or excuse for not answering you sooner. He will act like it didn’t happen and talk as though things are normal before he slows down his replies again.
3. He says it’s him, not you
A man who is ghosting you won’t actually come out and say he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. He’ll make excuses about why he didn’t text you all weekend. He’ll say he was busy working on his house, spending time with family, or his phone was acting funny. He will promise you that it wasn’t because of you that he didn’t get in touch.
4. He completely disappears
If you’ve connected with a man either online or gone out on dates in real life and then he suddenly disappears completely, you’ve been ghosted. He doesn’t have the guts to tell you he doesn’t want to talk to you or see you anymore, so he just stops talking to you completely. You’ll think he’s dropped off the face of the earth, but in reality his life has gone on as normal. If you were curious enough to check, you’d see that he was still active on his social media accounts.
5. He reappears with a request
A guy who is ghosting you may reappear now and then, but that appearance comes with a request. It will probably be a request he knows will be fulfilled by you. If you used to have sex, he might come around looking for that. If you used to send him photos in skimpy lingerie and he wants to see some new ones, he may ask for those. When he either gets what he wants or realizes he won’t get what he wants, he will fade away again. He may continue to try this whenever he gets bored.
It’s hard to admit that you may be being ghosted by the man you’re interested in. You may recognize the signs, but be confused when he pops up again. This is a common trait of men who ghost. They fade in and out until they finally disappear for good.