10 Questions to Ask Yourself.
Let’s start out by saying there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There are healthy relationships and relationships where you ask yourself “what the hell am I still doing here.” Healthy relationships are those in which couples handle conflict constructively and promptly.
But don’t be discouraged if your relationship is different from your friends’ because every relationship is unique. Here are some questions to help you gauge whether your relationship is healthy or if you should be running for the door.
1. The most important question is this, “Are you happy with the relationship?”
If your answer is no, or if you have to think too hard to respond to this question there is really no need to go any further. Do you smile and laugh with your partner more than you argue, cry, or feel frustration? Do you look forward to spending time with your partner, even if it’s just sitting on the couch watching Netflix? Do you do everything within your power to nurture and protect your relationship? Ask yourself, what’s the point of a relationship if all you’re getting out of it is gray hairs from being stressed out.
2. How well do you know your partner?
Do you know your partner’s dreams and fears? What they want out of life, what puts excitement in their voice. Do they know these things about you? Couples in healthy relationships are rarely blindsided by the fact that their partner wants something specific out of life.
3. Is there any passion?
Once the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over do you still feel passion for your partner? That strong desire to be close to and intimate with your partner? Passion is more than sexual desire; it’s the excitement of wanting to be with your partner and make them happy. If both you and your partner feel passion for each other, your relationship is probably healthy.
4. Can you compromise?