It’s over, you and your partner have broken up.
You’ve had a few arguments before, but this time it’s final. You both said some things, perhaps some pretty nasty, and things got heated. There were tears.
Maybe you had one last hug goodbye. Or maybe the last thing you heard was the slamming of a door. Maybe you were the one who slammed it.
No matter how things “ended,” you’re not a hundred percent sure that they truly did.
You’re still talking. Maybe texting a little. Maybe a lot. Maybe you still like each other’s photos on Facebook. You definitely check out his social media to see what he’s up to. You might even still hook up every once in a while.
In other words, it’s not over.
And now you’re asking yourself: “WTF kind of relationship am I in?”
“Are we together or aren’t we?”
“Is he really back?”
Or are you involved in “a long goodbye”? This is something you’ve got to figure out.
You’re at a crossroads, and you have two paths ahead of you. If you want to maintain your sanity and avoid being in this long goodbye situation that only makes you miserable, you have two options.
Option 1: You try again, but you don’t half-ass it this time. You fully commit and really try again.
Option 2: You breakup for good. This means cutting off ties, deleting or blocking your ex from social media, deleting his phone number, getting rid of the stuff he left at your place and deleting pictures of him on your cell phone.
But exactly how do you know whether you’re headed for option 1 (he’s actually back in your life) or option 2 (you’re headed for a breakup)?
Is He Really Back in Your Life? Answer the following questions.