Are You Too Clingy…?

When I was in high school, I’d listen to music pretty much 24/7. I’d get up, put on my Walkman (hopefully you remember that ancient device), and listen to songs I’d recorded off the radio.

A specific “classic rock” hit that I always puzzled over was “Hold On Loosely” by .38 Special.

If you don’t recall the lyrics, here’s part of the chorus:

Just Hold On Loosely
But don’t let go!
If you cling to tightly
You’re gonna lose control…

Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in
So Hold On Loosely…

Okay, so you get the picture there, right?

The message is pretty clear to me now, but back then I just didn’t understand how you could “hold on loosely” – especially to someone you adored and loved.

Every girlfriend I had, I wanted to cling tightly to her. But if I did that, she always freaked out and ran for the hills.

Until I was in my first few years of college. That’s when I learned. This one girl – Emily – flipped the tables on me and taught me a lesson I won’t soon forget.

I remember I had come out of a 2 year relationship with another sweetheart of mine, and I rebounded right into dating Emily. Emily was sweet, caring, and romantic. Thoughtful about every little thing.

It was like she was out of a fairy tale – the princess for this lonely prince.

She was the kind of girl I knew I should marry. And my friends even told me so.

And … she drove me completely out of my *#&!$@ mind!