Can An Affair Ever Become A Healthy Relationship?

We have all heard the adage “Once a cheater, always a cheater” but is it true? Relationships that start as a result of an affair have a difficult time of succeeding. One or both parties may have serious trust issues.  When you are in the throes of an affair, you might be so excited about your new partner that you fail to think about the end game.  If he cheated on his wife, what makes you think he will not eventually do the same thing to you? If you were the one who cheated, once the newness wears off, you may repeat the same mistakes with your new partner.

Affairs that turn into relationships have a hard time maturing.  It is vitally important that you both are honest and upfront about why you cheated in the first place.  Affairs are usually the cause of something deeper than sex. People who are addicted to the thrill of a new relationship will probably have another affair down the line when the excitement and newness of your relationship wears off.  If you have trouble communicating your needs to your partner and resort to an affair as a way to escape or self-sabotage, there is still the risk of this happening again.

Only when two people are clear about what made them stray and have worked toward changing the way they behave in relation to their partner is there any hope that the new relationship will not be doomed to suffer the same fate as the last one.