So you’ve been having a great time with this guy. The guy is really hot…not really the sorta guy you’d normally be into but the sex is just mind blowing. You’re friends know about him but you’ve made it clear he is just a FWB (friend with benefit). But lately, you’ve started seeing him in a different light and you are wondering if you could become more than FWB.
The good news is you can. The bad news is, it will take a lot of hard work. So here are some tips to help you out.
Stop hooking up with him
You need to stop having sex with him now. It won’t be possible for you to think straight while you are still hooking up with this guy. Take a step back and give yourself room to breathe. Carefully analyze your situation and figure out if this guy is truly worth the effort. Remember that converting a FWB is not going to be easy so you have to be really sure you want to convert this guy.
Make him miss you
Go MIA for a while and let him miss you. Three days or a week should be sufficient enough to make him miss you if he was used to hooking up with you every day. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t return his calls or reply his texts. Simply go quiet. Catch up with old friends or sign up for a martial arts class or something. Keep yourself busy to avoid obsessing over him.
If he likes you, he’ll start wondering if you are hooking up with someone else or you simply lost interest. Whatever the case, he’ll definitely want to find out where you are, what you are doing and why you haven’t talked to him for so long. When you bump into him just act casual. Say something like:
“Oh, I’m sorry I haven’t talked to you in a while. I’ve just been busy catching up with old friends and work that’s all.”
Go out on a date