My name is Jackie and I’m single. I have three married friends. I was a bridesmaid in all their weddings and I’m glad I helped make their special day memorable. So here’s the deal:
Back in college we were all really close. We did some crazy stuff I’m sure if my parents knew about they would never look at me the same way. So we graduated from college and luckily, we landed good jobs and eventually entered into serious relationships. At some point we were all married but somewhere along the way I started having problems with my husband and due to irreconcilable differences we got a divorce.
Let me just say that my three friends advised me to leave my husband. They said he didn’t deserve me and they encouraged me to get a divorce. No, I didn’t divorce my husband because of my friends but I really felt like they were there for me when I needed them. But something changed once I told them the divorce was final and I was a free woman.
They said I would “steal” their husbands
Well, they didn’t outright tell me this but from the way they were acting they might have as well said it. Crazy, right? I mean, what other reason did I have for getting divorced other than to steal their husbands away from them? Did I mention their husbands are so weak minded and unable to say no to my advances that stealing them would be as easy as taking candy away from a kid?
They were so terrified of my stealing abilities that they warned their husbands to stay away from me. In fact, they decided the best approach was to never invite me to their homes because, God forbid, I should try and seduce their husbands while they are not watching.
I didn’t understand marital problems
I mean, since I was no longer married, I didn’t have any marital experience. I was married for five years but that doesn’t count. As long as I’m divorced those five years don’t matter. I remember one of my friends few months back complained about how her husband never helped around the house but he expected her to do everything and still have the energy to have sex with him at the end of the day. I suggested she talk to him about it and tell him he should help out or they should hire a maid. She looked at me and said “Jackie dear, you don’t understand marital problems. You are not married anymore”.
I don’t know how to maintain a marriage
As a divorcee, I get this a lot. People judge and I know my friends judge me. One of my friends keeps complaining about how her husband keeps cheating on her. She doesn’t want to leave him because that means she’s wasted seven good years of her life so she’d rather stick it out and continue being miserable.
So I asked her why she stays with an unfaithful husband if she is so miserable. She told me she wasn’t leaving her husband any time soon because she wants to continue working on their marriage. She knows one day her husband will come around and realize he’s making a mistake. I asked her to share whatever it is she was smoking because it was making her delusional. I just don’t understand how a self-respecting woman like her would allow her husband to disrespect her like that. But hey, I know nothing about marriage because I’m divorced.
Since I’m single I must be lonely
My friends have trouble believing that I’m content with being single. They are constantly trying to hook me up with guys they think are my type. I know they want me to be happy but deep down they probably want to hook me up with some guy so that I don’t steal their husbands away from them.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends and sometimes we hang out and talk about something other than their husbands. I don’t regret being single. Better be single than be in a miserable marriage. Are you single with married friends? I’d love to know what you go through.