You love your boyfriend. When you first started dating, he was the perfect guy but now that the honeymoon phase is over, you’ve realized that some of his habits are driving you nuts. You don’t want to break up with him because despite his irritating habits, you still see him as the father of your kids. Thankfully, you don’t have to live the rest of your life miserable with him because we have some handy tips on how you can cope with him. But first…
Is it a bad habit or is he disrespecting you?
Can you tell if he’s disrespecting you or if he’s just testing your boundaries? What do you consider disrespectful? For instance, if he takes a dump while you are taking a shower, would you consider that disrespectful or just a bad habit? If you feel disrespected, then you have to ask yourself if you are willing to stay with someone who disrespects you.
How to cope
Release those endorphins
If you know you are about to get into a heated argument with your boyfriend, just shut up and go for a run. You might not know this but going for a run (or performing any other sort of exercise) helps you release endorphins and improves your mood.
This will be beneficial for your relationship. Think about it. Arguing with your boyfriend won’t solve the problems in your relationship because:
- In an argument, both of you are angry and unreasonable
- You are so focused on getting the last word in that neither of you listens to the other.
But when you go out for a run or a walk, you give both of you a chance to cool off and think just for a moment.
Don’t be as petty as your boyfriend
Your boyfriend might be having his own problems and the only way he knows how to deal with them is to pick a fight with you. Don’t fall into this trap. The moment he starts acting some type of way, get out of there and come back when he is ready to talk and reason like a mature adult. Just don’t be as petty as he is by arguing with him.
Get some music therapy
No, you don’t have to pay for this. Just play your favorite song…the kind of song that just lifts your mood and makes you feel happy again even if you’ve had a shitty day. Don’t put anything that’s too loud because this will only be a basis for another argument. If you want something loud just put on your earphones.
Talk to your friends
We are not advocating that you start airing your dirty linen in public but sometimes we all feel like we want to talk to someone who listens to us. So, talk to a trusted friend about your current situation with your boyfriend. They might not give you a solution to your problems but you will feel much better after talking to them.
Now that we’ve given you tips on how to cope with your boyfriend’s bad behavior, it’s time to show you how to handle him and we have two approaches you could use:
- Show him who he is
Let’s get one thing clear…two wrongs don’t make a right but sometimes in order for a man to realize that he’s doing something wrong, you have to show him who he is. And what better way to do that other than to do what he does?
If he doesn’t clean up after himself, stop cleaning up after yourself too. If he leaves his socks lying around, start leaving your undies lying around too. Soon he’ll get the message. Alternatively…
- You can compromise
Your boyfriend has his annoying habits and believe it or not, you too have some habits that he finds annoying. So sit down with him, like two mature adults and talk about compromising.
Ask him what habit he finds irritating and tell him which habit you hate most. Then both of you can agree to stop the bad habit.
So if he hates how you leave your box of tampons on the bed, start putting them in your drawer. And if you hate how he doesn’t remove his shoes when he gets home from work, he should start removing them.
This way, you are both giving up something that the other person doesn’t like without either of you feeling pressured. Click here if you need a little more information on how men work.