You are happily married to the man of your dreams but there’s one problem; his mother in law. She is snarky, annoying, sarcastic and downright mean. If only it were possible to wish her away and completely make her disappear. Unfortunately, that’s not possible because you have to figure out a way to get along with your husband’s mother.
Don’t think for even one moment that you don’t need to get along with her since you are not married to her. If you want to put a damper on your relationship, then go ahead and start disrespecting his mom. But if you want to live happily ever after with your husband, we have a few tips you can use.
Assume her intentions are good
Mothers in law offer all kinds of unwarranted advice. They will tell you that’s not how pasta should be cooked or you don’t know how to do the laundry or her son shouldn’t be eating a certain type of food. All this advice can make anyone easily feel like they are being condemned.
Try to put yourself in her shoes and try to look at things from her perspective. She just wants what’s best for her son and if it were you, that’s what you’d want. So just assume she has the best intentions and say “thank you” and do your own thing.
If she insists on pushing her opinions, say something like “Thanks for the advice but we’ll first ask the doctor about that”. This way, you’ll deflect her opinions by citing an authority source like a doctor, a nutritionist, or any other expert depending on what type of opinion she’s pushing.
Avoid heated discussions with her
If you know your mother in law is one of those women who are opinionated or force their opinions down other people’s throats, then you should try as much as possible to avoid discussing controversial topics with her.