So you’ve met this wonderful guy and things are going really well. He knows you have kids and he is more than ready to meet them. As a mother, you are not sure if your kids will like this guy. Will they hit it off or will they reject him the moment they see him? What happens when they don’t hit it off immediately? Will you break up with the guy and find another one or will you tell the guy to hang in there and maybe things will work out? This is a real dilemma for many women so here’s how you should do the introduction.
How To Do The Introduction
How you do the introduction depends on how old your kids are. If they are older, think 18 and above, you won’t have much work to do but if they are younger, your approach has to be carefully thought out. Here are some tips to help you make the right decisions:
- Don’t act like it’s a huge deal
Introducing your new beau to your kids is a huge deal for the two of you but it shouldn’t be for your kids. It’s probably better to explain this with an example. When your kid falls off his bike and scrapes his knee, is he likely to have a huge meltdown when you freak out or when you act cool? That’s right; when you play cool he will get up, dust himself off and get on his bike again like nothing happened.
So if you act like your kids meeting your new boyfriend is a huge deal they will get worked up for completely no reason at all. So what should you do? Mention ahead of time that your friend will be stopping by. Don’t say “boyfriend” or “special friend”, just a “friend”. And don’t forget to tell your beau not to show any PDA in front of your kids at least for the first few weeks.
- Keep your dates low key