How To Transform From A Timid Woman To A Confident Flirt

Everyone knows how to flirt but it’s how you do it that will either attract or repel guys. Gone are the days when all women had to do was sit pretty and wait for guys to notice them. Sure, good looks help but you need the right set of personality traits to hit the right notes with men. More importantly, you need confidence.

Ever heard the saying that nice girls finish last? In this case, it applies to timid girls. Here are ways you can approach a man and flirt with him even when you are not so confident about it.

  1. Work on your looks

The best way to boost your confidence is working on your looks. We are not talking about doing something drastic like getting Botox injections or butt enhancements. Simply wearing a nice sexy outfit, getting your hair and nails done and applying some makeup will definitely boost your confidence a little. When you feel good about yourself it shows and men notice that. So you will definitely attract a guy who is also confident and feels good about themselves.

  1. Overcome the fear of approaching guys

Nowadays it’s totally normal for women to approach men. if he’s cute, why not, right? it takes a lot to master up the courage to approach a guy you like. Thankfully, most guys aren’t stuck in the 1950s when they believed if a woman approached a guy, she had loose morals.

As a matter of fact, most guys nowadays think that a woman who has the balls to make the first move is downright sexy and confident. Some men might feel a little intimidated when you approach them but that shouldn’t deter you from approaching guys. Besides, wouldn’t you want to date a guy who is attracted to strong confident women like you?

  1. Break the ice

What’s the point of approaching a guy if you can’t even break the ice? So here are a few ways to do it.

Find something to complain about:

No, don’t tell him about your problems. Find something you don’t like and then mention it on a light note. For instance, if there’s a giant deer head hanging on the wall poke fun at it. Whatever you do, don’t engage him in a negative rant. This is where your sense of humor will really work for you.

Compliment him:

You have to really choose your words carefully on this one because the last thing you want is to sound like some little girl discovering boys for the first time. So instead of showering him with gushy compliments like “OMG you have such a hot body”, why don’t you compliment him on his choice of clothes or sense of style. Something like, “I like your shirt” or “aren’t you looking dapper,” works really well as an ice breaker.

  1. How to go about the conversation

After you’ve successfully broken the ice, here’s where your flirting skills will be put to test. The main aim of flirting is to get a guy interested in you and what better way to do this than to engage him in meaningful conversation? Talk about something neutral but fun and exciting like pop culture.

Your body language also matters in this case. Make genuine consistent eye contact but don’t engage him in a staring contest or he’ll think you are a freak. Let him know you are paying attention by nodding your head. Smile and laugh easily. Be a good listener. But make sure you keep your conversation short and sweet. At the end of your conversation ask him to swap numbers with you. If he likes you he will, if he doesn’t don’t worry about it; you will find another guy better than him.

  1. The waiting game

If you swapped numbers, wait for him to call you. The key here is to always ensure the ball is in your court. You want him to chase you and not the other way round. You have to stay in control.

Flirting takes time and practice so don’t worry if you don’t make it the first time. But you have to overcome the fear of approaching and flirting with men in order to become a confident flirt.  written by Jackie K.


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