Whatever we believe is true about ourselves, even on a subconscious level, will cause us to attract partners who will mirror that belief back to us.
Do you think you’re too emotional? You’ll be doomed to attract a partner that can’t handle your emotions (or probably even their own).
Do you believe you’re stupid? You’re going to find a partner that agrees with you.
Do you have doubts that you aren’t good enough to be loved? Then you’ll find yourself in a relationship with people who, no matter what you do, will not be able to love you.
Here’s a story a good friend told me and I want to share it to really get through to you guys:
In her early twenties, my friend thought she was too emotional. She thought she was too sensitive and that her feelings were just a burden on everyone else. She would judge herself for crying during a movie or television show, even if others were crying too. She said she would have so many negative thoughts swirling in her head of perceived weaknesses in herself.
And, shocker, during those years, she exclusively attracted partners who also thought she was too emotional.
They might never have said it verbally, but they would emotionally shut down whenever her emotions bubbled to the surface.
She felt that she didn’t deserve love because of her perceived character flaws, so she attracted partners who, either consciously or not, agreed with that belief.