The funny part about dating is that if you can just avoid most of the rather dumb mistakes many women do, you can increase your success with men by at least TWICE as much. (I’m really under-estimating that one, by the way. It’s MUCH bigger than most people assume.)
But, you see – that’s also the problem…
We become really focused on NOT making mistakes. And that approach gives off its own vibe.
It’s kind of like putting on one of those Japanese Kabuki plays where they wear so much makeup, you can’t see what the actor is really expressing underneath it all. It’s off-putting and kinda weird.
When you’re dating, you have to be absolutely sure that you DO one thing – AND – NOT do one thing when it comes to dating. I’ll reveal the one you need to do in just a second, but first… the thing you should NEVER do with a man is this:
NEVER try to hide the REAL you from him.
Contrary to what a lot of people might say, we guys aren’t that clueless. We also have a certain “male instinct” that we use to figure out what kind of a woman we’re dealing with. If we think she’s putting on a front, trying to put on her best behavior and hide away her little insecurities and things like that, we will be very cautious about her. After all, why is she playing this like a cautious poker player? Is she hiding something? Is she a gold-digger trying to lure me in? In fact, this distance could destroy trust so much that we never fully open up to you.