If one partner constantly and quickly changes mood for no good reason, an abusive relationship is likely. In such a situation, it is impossible to please the abusive partner, no matter how hard the abused individual tries. Just as the abused partner thinks everything is going smoothly, the mood changes, and they find they are in the wrong. So they change tack to please their partner, but he or she changes as well. Whatever the victim’s prevailing mood may be, the abusive partner’s mood will quickly and deliberately change to be diametrically opposed.
The problem with abusive relationships is that the innocent partner rarely realizes what they are involved in until it is too late. Abusers do not come with an identification label. They can be charming when they choose to be, so the dark reality of what lies behind the smile and the perfect manners may be very well hidden.
Once an abusive relationship starts, it can be difficult to extricate the victim as physical and emotional abuse erodes self-esteem. Frequently, they feel that the difficulties are their fault, because the abusive partner has convinced them that they are the one with the problem. It is also unlikely that a victim will be able to persuade their partner to seek help as abusers rarely see that they are doing anything wrong.