Stop Scaring Your Dates Away

There was this couple that went out to dinner. The guy ordered some greasy fried chicken while the lady ordered a potato salad. When their food arrived, the girl decided that what the guy had ordered was “unhealthy” and she was watching his waistline. She didn’t want him to grow fat. So she ordered for him a salad. She even insisted on showing him how to use the salad fork. Yes, this is a real story.

When a guy sees you are controlling, he starts imagining that that’s how your relationship will be the entire time you are together. He would rather bolt than have to deal with your controlling behavior.

  1. Flirting openly

Okay, so maybe your intention is to make him a little jealous. You flirt a little with other guys in his presence just to make sure he knows you’re still a catch. This is wrong because that’s not the message you are sending across. In his mind he is thinking you’re a sleaze even if you are not. Men and women like being prioritized and flirting with other men in front of him is plain disrespectful.

  1. Claim staking

Three dates in and you have already changed your Facebook status. In fact, you are now talking to him about marriage and babies. Phew…talk about going from 0-100 real fast! You haven’t even given him time to figure out what he likes about you or if he likes you. Give yourself space to enjoy your blossoming romance. In time you will talk about where your relationship stands. Or maybe you won’t. But remember you are not a couple until you are a couple!

  1. Sharing sexual history too soon

Sex is a delicate subject. Some guys figure that a woman is a slut if she has slept with more than one guy. Some prefer to date virgins and others don’t care how many guys you’ve slept with. Bottom line is: it’s an uncomfortable subject to discuss with a guy you’ve known for only a few dates.