Sometimes they do kill the messenger.
You have been friends with your girlfriend since you were little kids. You share secrets, you are there for each other during sad times, you do the craziest shit together and sometimes fight about the most stupid things. However, you recently found out that your best friend’s man is cheating on her and you are wondering if you should you tell her or not
It’s a real dilemma. For most people, telling their best friend that her man is cheating on her is a no-brainer. It’s something they wouldn’t hesitate to do. But before you pick up the phone to call your friend and tell her what her man has been up to, consider these two scenarios:
Lucy walks in on her best friend’s man having sex with a co-worker in his office. She is both horrified and disgusted by him. The husband begs her not to tell his wife but Lucy knows she can’t keep such a thing from her best friend.
So she plans a coffee date with her best friend and breaks the news to her. Her best friend is of course hurt and embarrassed that she had to find out about her husband’s affair from someone else.
Lucy is glad that her best friend isn’t in the dark anymore about what her husband has been doing. She’s played her role as a best friend and she’s proud of it.
But a week later, she receives a text message from her best friend telling her that she no longer wants to remain friends with her.
She has decided to work on her marriage and being friends with her would only be a constant reminder of what happened.
If only she’d kept her mouth shut, the affair would have fizzled out and everything would have remained normal. But since she couldn’t keep the affair to herself, her marriage is on the rocks and it would take her a long time to get over what happened.