If you had to choose ONLY two traits that your ideal partner needs to have, what would they be?
What makes those traits absolutely necessary to have a wonderful relationship? Think about that for a moment and list them down.
According to Ty Tashiro (a renowned psychologist), emotional stability and kindness are the lifeblood of a happy, lasting relationship.
He says that these two traits will predict whether you and your guy will be together for keeps – or eventually call it quits. Do you agree with this? But before you answer that, let’s take a closer look:
#1: Emotional Stability: Less Drama, More Happiness?
So, Tashiro claims that if couples are less prone to mood swings and have a positive outlook on the world, it’s likely that they’ll last for decades and decades to come.
To me, that makes sense – guys (me included) would rather date a girl who is predictable in the sense that she won’t surprise us with emotional ups and downs, or pick a fight over something trivial.
Guys won’t tell you this, but we want someone who isn’t going to complicate their lives because we’re generally NOT big fans of unnecessary relationship drama. Sure, the occasional argument over something that actually matters is fine.
But if a guy’s spending way too much time fighting over the relationship instead of enjoying it, he’ll probably reconsider his options – and an exit strategy.
#2: Kindness: Curious Case of the Nice Girl
Tashiro says that “agreeable-ness” is the key to a happy relationship because this type of person has a lot of empathy. A partner who cares about your perspective means they’re more generous when it comes to emotional support and affection.
More importantly, a “nice” partner also doesn’t keep score – she gives freely and trusts that her partner will give back equally in the future.
However, he pointed out that these same people “get a bad rap in dating” for being nice, which is often perceived as a negative trait.