What He Means When He Says You’re “Too Needy”

Did your guy just tell you that you’re too needy?

First, ouch!

Second, before you get mad (or worse, hurt) did you ask him what he really meant?

Far too often, when people fight, it’s due to a misunderstanding. We dismiss our partner’s use of default, dumb phrases as just another insult intended to wound. But is that really what he meant to do?

Often, “too needy” is just a catchphrase tossed around like “you’re crazy” and “you’re just like you’re mother.” As a result, it’s easy to assume that every time such a phrase escapes his lips, he’s a complete prick.

It’s sad but true ladies. Some men just fight like that. They throw around catchphrases as though they’re curveballs. So how do you respond to that?

If you’re in a relationship that you value, “you’re too needy” is a phrase you don’t want to dismiss with just a dumb fight. Him saying that is often warranted to some degree. Ignore that fact and you’ll just create a volatile relationship.

So when a man says “you’re too needy” what he often means is something else. Here are some behaviors that men might see as ‘needy’ and what women may see as normal:

1. All you’re social life centers on him.

Ladies, guys often fear losing their ‘freedom.’ In a relationship, you crave security, but more often than not, guys will fight that feeling and want to keep their options open.