Long distance relationships are hard but with a little effort, they usually work out. We’ve seen plenty of people get into long distance relationships and eventually get married and live happily ever after. So if your goal is to have a lovey-dovey long distance relationship, then you should be prepared to tackle all problems that come with it. We have discussed a few of these problems and how to tackle them.
He promised to Skype you at 10pm when he got off work but he never logged in. He takes too long to reply your text messages. Your calls always go to voicemail and he takes forever to return them. He promised to come this weekend but he never made it. Frustrating right? Couples who live in close proximity sometimes get into some nasty arguments. For long distance couples, this factor is multiplied several times over. So how do you deal with this issue?
The only way to deal with this issue is to talk it out. The next time you are on the phone with him, don’t just go on and on about what’s going on in your lives; get into the real issue. Talking about your fights can go a long way into helping you resolve them. In fact, it can help you see your boyfriend’s point of view and why he behaves the way he does.
It’s okay to get a little jealous once in a while. Your man might have a better job or live in a better place or he might just be mingling with people who are more fun than you. Jealousy only becomes a problem when it borders on two extremes: neediness and ignorance. So how do you deal with jealousy?
You need to work on your insecurities. If you feel threatened by the fact that he has a great job or you are jealous of whom he’s mingling with, then you are definitely insecure about yourself. One more thing to keep in mind is that you have to express your jealousy so that it does not “boil” in your mind. Talk to your man about how you feel and if he truly cares about you, he will avoid potential jealousy situations.
This is probably the biggest challenge about long distance relationships; missing your partner like crazy. Unfortunately there’s not much you can do about the fact that you can’t hold your man whenever you like but there’s a way you can diminish the longing for your partner.
Engage in your favorite pass time activity. Have fun with your friends, go hiking or kayaking or whatever it is you like to do during your free time. Time will pass by so fast and before you know it, he has come to visit you over the weekend or the day you agreed to go visit him has finally arrived.
Your man is over there and you are over here…you both have needs and he probably sees beautiful women every day. So what’s gonna stop him from cheating on you?
We have a pretty simple solution for you. Since you can’t force your man to remain faithful, why not give him freedom of choice? Ever heard of the saying “forbidden fruit is the sweetest”? It pretty much explains why sex with someone who isn’t your husband or boyfriend is better than sex with your actual partner.
We are humans and we always think the grass is greener on the other side so let your man cheat if that’s what he wants as long as he is prepared to take responsibility for his actions and for the fact that you will not entertain a relationship with a cheating boyfriend. Putting the choice in his hands is a great way of dealing with infidelity.
Fear of growing apart
What if suddenly you woke up one day and found out that you’ve grown apart? You are no longer into each other and you’re holding on to a non-existent relationship? After all, out of sight out of mind, right? Well, realistically speaking, you didn’t just suddenly grow apart…it’s been a process, you just weren’t aware of what was happening.
The only way you can keep from growing apart is actually keeping in contact with each other as often as possible. Send each other random messages during the day or surprise your partner with a snail mail. Share your schedules, exchange gifts and visit each other as often as possible. This will bring you closer together.
These are just some of the challenges you should be prepared to face in your long distance relationship but with the solutions we’ve given you, you should be able to keep your man at arm’s length even if you are a thousand miles apart.
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