When should you walk away…?

Many women find themselves in the following situation at some point in a relationship. Trying to decide if it’s worth the effort to try and salvage a relationship or to cut your losses and move on.  This can be a heart breaking decision and even though ultimately the decision is yours to make, having someone to help you out a little doesn’t hurt.

This is a question that someone asked Carlos, a relationship coach:

Carlos, We had ‘the talk’ after about 5 months of dating and I asked Adrian where “he saw me in his life” and he said he couldn’t tell me. If I had watched your video first, I wouldn’t had asked the question.

It came out that because I was a vegetarian this was a big issue for him. We have been away together and both had a good time. He always said after we have been on a date that he had fun. After the talk, I hadn’t heard from him for 3 weeks so I rang him and asked him on an ‘Ultimate Date’.

During ‘the talk’ he had said that he wanted to cook a meal together. He also had told me his passion is sailing. I bought some exotic Asian fruit and vegetables and he came over and we prepared a meal together.

At the end of the evening, I asked him if he wanted to come in for a cup of tea and he said no and went home. He didn’t contact me after the date.

He seems to keep himself busy going away on weekends, long bike rides and building projects. I was going to ask him out on another ultimate date but he said he was going skiing with his brother. It turned out there was no snow so they didn’t go and he stayed at home & worked on a boat.

He didn’t contact me to say he wasn’t going so he could go out with me. He is going away with his friends for a week skiing.

He said that he may go to Paris for a vacation later this month.