When You Choose Love Over Comfort

You probably realize the best way to stay out of debt and avoid bankruptcy is to never spend more money than you make.

But it’s easier to convince yourself that it’s okay and just put it on a credit card, making payments later.

You could write, learn a new language, master an instrument, with a little patience and practice. But motivating yourself to put in the work necessary to achieve these feats is much harder than binge-watching House of Cards on Netflix.

Likewise, you could have an incredibly passionate relationship with a committed partner… or you can stay safe and in your comfort zone and forfeit the love you truly crave.

You’d rather think up excuses for being busy with work or taking care of someone (kids, parents, friends even) than make the extra effort to plan a romantic date.

You’d rather turn down someone’s advances because you’re not in the mood than entertain the idea of compromises and potential hurt.

Rather than looking like a fool, you don’t want to take the risk and wait for the other person to make the first move.

You’d rather watch a movie than come up with well-thought out questions that inspire meaningful conversations.

You’d rather scream and walk away from a conversation, slam the door behind you than listen compassionately, show understanding or forgiveness.

If your partner is into BDSM, you’d rather read 50 Shades than books that could educate you on what’s involved in being a good BDSM partner or even if it’s something you would be willing to do.