If you thought your date couldn’t get any weirder, wait until the waiter drops off the check on the table. Can you believe there was a time when it was automatically assumed it was the man’s role to pay for dates? Things have really changed and in 2015, you can’t really expect what used to work for dates in the 90s to still work. So we are here to let you know who should pay for the first date.
A guy should pay if:
It’s your first date
Real gentlemen always pay on the first date…unless you prefer not to date a gentleman. He should be the one to make the first move when the bill comes. In fact, during your first few dates with him, he should pay and here’s why you should let him:
It’s his chance to prove to you that he’s responsible, established and steady. Only if he shows you these qualities can you tell if he is relationship ready or not. Remember, ladies, first impressions matter. If he doesn’t show you he is a gentleman on the first date, you can be assured he won’t show you on the second or the third date.
He asked you out
Nothing sounds as pathetic as a guy who asks out a girl and then asks her to pay her half of the bill. First of all, she had no plans of going out; he invited her. Second of all, why did he ask her out if he didn’t plan on paying the whole bill? He should have just gone out by himself.
As a rule of thumb, whoever asks the other out should pay for the date. Unless you agreed on it in the first place, the bill shouldn’t be split 50/50 either.
It’s a special occasion
If he suggests you go out and celebrate your birthday, your promotion or some other type of achievement, he should definitely pay for the date. Paying for your date on a special occasion shows that he appreciates you and is proud of what you have accomplished.
So now that we’ve established when a man should pay for a dinner date or any other date, let’s discuss when you should pay for the date.
You should pay if:
You asked him out