Who knows, the free-spirited, take-me-where-the-wind-blows type of guy you always pictured yourself falling in love with might not be the ONLY good match for you. Maybe that feeling of fun and freedom isn’t the only criteria for an ideal relationship.
Who says dating a 9-to-5, straight-arrow kind of guy won’t provide you just as much happiness – even without the whirlwind romance you’ve dreamed about? Who says he can’t offer you just as much excitement as other types of men?
If you want to look at the business of dating guys in a more positive light, here’s my recommendation: keep your eye OFF the prize.
One of the things I notice with a lot of women is that they tend to focus too much on the end result when they should be enjoying the ride.
When people get on the roller coaster, they don’t tell themselves, “Boy, I’m really looking forward to the end of this ride!”
It’s all about savoring the anticipation, enjoying the sudden twists and turns, and above all, having a blast.
If you lose sight of this, you’ll just end up feeling horrible when your date doesn’t have that picture-perfect Hollywood ending that you envisioned.
As a result, you’ll feel like a failure if things turn out to be less than perfect. That’s not a healthy attitude to have about dating – or men in general.
Here’s what you do before getting on a date: take all those anxieties and doubts, roll them into a nice little ball, and tell yourself, “screw the outcome” as you chuck it out the window. Who needs that mental baggage anyway?
Just concentrate on looking your best and having the best possible time with your guy. Stop hemming and hawing – squeeze out every drop of enjoyment from the experience.
Even if he doesn’t end up being the right guy for you, just think of dating as playing a video game with an infinite stack of quarters.
I’ll let you in on a little secret: that’s how a lot of guys think.