10 Ways to Control Your Jealousy

It is easy to be jealous if you are dating a jerk who gives you every reason to be, but the green-eyed monster can rear it’s ugly head in even the best of relationships. If you have a great guy in your life who hasn’t done anything but show you respect and honesty, but you still have jealousy tendencies, it is time to take the bull by the horns.

No guy wants to have a jealous girlfriend, and being too controlling is a great way to send him fleeing. Here are 10 ways to keep your jealousy under control and enjoy your wonderful boyfriend.

#1. Banish the Ghost of Relationships Past
Many men feel that they are being punished for something another guy did. If you are like most women, you probably have a few bad relationships in your past. Do not let those past failures wreck your current success. Let go of those old ghosts and enjoy the great guy you have now.

#2. Treat Yourself to a Me Day
It is easy to be jealous if you feel dowdy and unattractive. The next time you feel the jealousy monster start to rear its ugly head, take time to treat yourself. Whether you splurge on a spa day and a massage or just give yourself a makeover, you will feel better about yourself and your relationship.

#3. Engage in Positive Affirmations
You do not have to be a new age guru to benefit from a positive affirmation here and there. Just telling yourself that you are valuable and loved can keep your jealousy at bay and help you enjoy your relationship more. You are a great person – if you weren’t, your boyfriend wouldn’t be here in the first place.

#4. Sometimes a Phone is Just a Phone
The smartphone is a source of jealousy in so many relationships. When your boyfriend picks up his phone, is he really checking in at work, or is he checking out other women online. Sometimes a phone is just a phone – unless your boyfriend has given you reason to doubt his loyalty, give him some space and stop looking over his shoulder.

#5. Know Your Triggers