The last thing you need is an insecure man!
He does so much for you. Picks you up, gives you presents, opens the door, takes you to elegant places, and endlessly compliments you. He keeps saying how he can’t believe you agreed to go out with him, that you’re way out of his league. He treats you like a princess and it’s very flattering.
It’s a refreshing change to feel so appreciated, especially if you’ve dated a few self-absorbed, insensitive jerks in the past. You begin to think that maybe he’s “the one.” But then things head south. His sweet attentiveness turns into an overwhelming obsession.
It seems like it takes so much energy to reassure him again and again, and you’re not getting anything back. It’s sucking you dry. Insecure men are everywhere! Here are 15 signs your man might be one of them:
1. He has no outside friends or interests.
He never mentions any friends and doesn’t hang out with anyone but you. Outside of work, he has no interests or hobbies. He doesn’t go to the gym, play any sports, take any classes, volunteer or go to church. When he isn’t with you, he’s sitting at home thinking about you. Or maybe he did have friends and hobbies at one time, but he gave them all up in order to spend every minute with you.
2. He thinks you still have feelings for your ex.
He’s convinced you aren’t over your ex, even if you’ve been divorced/broken up for years and the only feelings you have for him are disappointment, pity, loathing, disgust, and a smidgen of residual hatred. His insecurity is so overwhelming that he can’t see reason and will convince himself that you couldn’t possibly love him, so the only “logical” conclusion is that you’re still in love with your ex.
3. He tells you he loves you right away.