It is never easy to accept that it may be time to leave a relationship, but crucial when said relationship is toxic or destructive. Maybe people fear being alone, or don’t want to hurt the person they are with by ending things prematurely, even if it is best for all parties involved. Below are the top three red flags that your relationship may be toxic and signs you should leave.
1. You or your partner are distant or emotionally unavailable.
There are many reasons why a person may become distant; they may be shutting down because they’re no longer interested in the relationship, they’ve prioritized other things above you, or even because they are an emotionally neglectful person. One or both of you may feel that you’ve grown apart, or feel “stuck.” Healthy romantic companionship is supposed to serve the emotional needs of both individuals. If your partner ignores you, shows no interest in your life, or doesn’t seem “present,” you must evaluate if you are gaining anything from staying together.
2. Your partner doesn’t “fight fair” or treat you with respect.
Communication breakdowns, contempt, negativity, and abuse are all hallmark signs of a toxic relationship. If you do not feel that you can openly and honestly communicate with your partner without being berated or criticized you could be in an emotionally abusive relationship. Having reoccurring fights or vicious arguments are damaging to a person’s mental and physical health, and are a huge red flag in relationships. Partners who don’t respect your privacy or trust you can be equally harmful.
3. You’ve been unhappy for a long time and are considering other options.