It’s not unusual for women to be bleeding hearts. Women are sensitive and don’t want others to feel bad, so they tend to take everything on themselves, including things that aren’t in any way their responsibility. It’s important for all women to expect men to act like men and not cut them slack when they should be stepping up. This article outlines 4 situations where you might be tempted to cut your boyfriend slack, but shouldn’t.
1. He doesn’t help around the house
The worst thing you can do in a relationship with a man is shoulder all of the chores by yourself. Some women refuse to even let a man help because she thinks it makes her a better girlfriend or wife to do it all herself. That’s not true at all. When you teach a man that he never has to help out, even if he offers, he becomes used to this behavior and won’t offer anymore. If you do ask him to help out in the future, he’ll not be as eager as he once was do to so. He may even refuse to help altogether because over time you made it your job to let him off the hook.
2. Blaming all of his exes for their break-ups
If your boyfriend has had multiple break-ups or divorces and you blame his exes for them all because of the stories he tells, you are probably in denial. You want to believe that your boyfriend is the greatest thing to come into your life, but you have to remember that he was half of every relationship. Does it seem possible that he kept getting mixed up with the wrong women until you came along? To believe that he was completely innocent is cutting him too much slack and giving you a false sense of how wonderful he is. No one is that perfect.
3. You blame yourself for his cheating
If your boyfriend is unhappy with you or has an issue in his relationship with you, he should sit down and talk to you about the situation. It’s not your fault if he decides to hold it all in and look for comfort elsewhere. If he’s so unhappy, there are two acceptable choices. He can either work on the relationship with you or he can end the relationship with you. The moment you blame yourself is the moment you give him an excuse to cheat every time he doesn’t get his own way.
4. You cover all his bills
Your boyfriend is irresponsible with money, but you laugh it off. Being irresponsible with money is no laughing matter, especially if you’re the one that hands over the cash so that he can pay his half of the bills and rent. It’s not your job to be responsible for his bills. When you laugh it off as if it’s a joke, he won’t see anything wrong with it and won’t make the appropriate changes. Spending his money is not something that’s out of his control. He makes his choices the same way you do. He just chooses to throw his money away and let other people cover him. Stop paying his bills and he will either change his ways or ruin himself financially. It’s not your job to fix his finances.
Being a girlfriend isn’t about making your boyfriend feel like he always has someone taking care of him. You’re not there to make like easy on him. Being a couple is about helping each other out and going through life together. One partner in a relationship should never be consistently cut slack.