Jackie has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for two years. She thought everything was going great until one day the cookie just crumbled. Their relationship turned sour and to this day she has no clue what went wrong. If only there as a sign that something was wrong.
Now ladies, sometimes breakups happen when we least expect them to but here’s the deal:
A relationship doesn’t end when the breakup happens; it ends much earlier than that. All those fights, those disagreements are just signs that there was a problem in the relationship that should have been addressed before things got way out of hand.
- Having sex too soon
Here’s why you should wait before your first romp in the bedroom:
Men don’t fall in love as quickly as we would like them to. They have to first invest emotionally in the relationship before they can decide you are the one. This rarely happens when you have sex with a man before he can invest emotionally in the relationship. That’s why it’s so hard to change a friend with benefits relationship into a long term serious relationship.
The good thing about waiting before having sex with a guy is that it will help you weed out the players from the serious guys.
So how long should you wait? Relationship experts recommend couples should wait at least 3-6 months before getting physical. Most players aren’t willing to wait that long. A guy looking for a serious relationship will wait.
- You are both dealing with issues from the past
If you are still dealing with emotional issues from your past, then you have no business getting into a relationship in the first place. Same case applies to men. If you get into a relationship with a man who is still carrying emotional baggage around, you won’t be happy unless you are willing to do one thing:
Help him deal with it.