The average engagement lasts approximately a year. Everyone has their own reasons for choosing to have a long or short engagement. Neither is better than the other. This article outlines five good reasons to set a wedding date that might seem a bit distant.
1. You can finish school first
If you get engaged while one or both of you are still in college or trade school, this is a good reason for a long engagement. School and wedding planning are both stressful and time consuming, so waiting until you graduate to begin planning your wedding will take a lot of pressure off of you.
2. You can save more money
If you have very specific, and expensive, tastes that you want for your wedding, you may want to have a long engagement in order to save more money to get exactly what you dream of. This may also be a good decision if neither of your families can help you with the cost of the wedding. You don’t want to go into debt over one day, so having a longer engagement and saving up more money can be a great choice.
3. You’re in a long-distance relationship
If you are in a long-distance relationship when you get engaged, this is good reason to have a longer rather than shorter engagement. If you haven’t spent much time together in real life, that’s an important step to take. It’s a good idea to live in the same city for a while before you get married. Decide that you will live closer for a specific amount of time before you begin to plan your wedding.
4. You want to enjoy your engagement
If you start planning your wedding right away, you might not get to enjoy your actual engagement period. You might want to bask in your engagement for a few months before you get into the planning part. Don’t feel the pressure to start planning your wedding the day after you get engaged.
5. You have doubts
If you have even the tiniest doubt about marrying your fiance, you should not feel pressured into having a short engagement. Take any amount of time you need to decide if this is the right decision for your life. Never feel obligated to go through with planning a wedding or the wedding itself if you are not comfortable.
Planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful things you go through as a couple. It’s important that you do it in your time and on your terms. Other people will always have an opinion, but in the end you decide what’s best for you as a couple.