One of the hardest tasks ever!
Getting over a romantic relationship, especially one that you did not initiate, can have you feeling lost and devastated. It’s the end of a chapter in your life that you wanted a different ending for. You have to remember it’s only one chapter, and you need to accept the ending in order to begin the next chapter in your life.
Here are five tips for putting yourself on the road to recovery.
1. Cut off all ties.
This is the most difficult step, yet, the most necessary. Don’t try to remain “friends.” Delete pictures on your phone of your former partner, return his belongings, and take back yours. But don’t use these as opportunities to see him. Have a friend be the go between to accomplish these tasks. If you and your partner attend the same health club, either go at times when you know he won’t be there, or change health clubs. Avoid places where you know he spends a lot of time at.
Of course if children are involved, or you work at the same place, cutting all ties will be harder, if impossible to do. Do your best to minimize contact. It will help you get over your breakup faster.
2. Rediscover yourself.
When we are in a relationship, sometimes we become defined by that relationship. Some people lose a sense of individuality. If this has happened to you, now is the time to rediscover who you are. Call an old friend who you haven’t seen recently to catch up on old times. Read a book by your favorite author. Revisit a pastime that you used to enjoy. Take some time off and visit a family member or close friend. Or just take a long weekend and walk along the beach and think about the things that you once loved but put on the back burner because of your relationship.
3. Try something completely new.