You have found the one, the process of falling in love with this guy has been exciting and you treasure every moment but somehow you feel like you are doing too much. Well, in every relationship you have to make some adjustments so that you can establish a strong bond. Some women are happy quitting their jobs to raise a family while others prefer not to have kids at all. But how much is too much when deciding what to sacrifice for your relationship? We’ll highlight a few things we think women should never sacrifice for their men.
- Sacrificing your dreams
You worked so hard to get to where you are but all of a sudden this guy walks into your life and you are ready to give it all up? Well, we don’t know about you but that’s just insane. In fact, it’s not something a strong, confident woman would do. If a guy loves you, he will encourage you to follow your dreams, not to give them up. Don’t be surprised when he leaves for another woman and helps her achieve her dreams.
- Compromising your values
Honestly, your relationship will never work if you compromise your values. We all have our own set of moral values and principles that we live by. If you believe in marriage then babies, don’t let a guy cheat you into having babies then marriage. It won’t be fair to you. Besides, if a guy doesn’t respect your values and principles, he doesn’t deserve to be with you. A guy will always respect a woman who stands firmly by her principles even if he breaks up with her.
- Changing your looks
So he told you he would like it if you did something to your nose or if you added a little cushion to your derriere or if only you were a little bit skinnier. If a guy tells you to change your looks, you should tell him to go look for a woman that matches his standards of beauty. And by the way, if a man starts telling you to modify your looks, you will never satisfy him. He will always nitpick on your physical flaws no matter how much you try to look beautiful. Word of advice, stay away from such guys.
- Sacrificing your friends and time
Spending all your free time with your man is a big no, no. Your friends and family are just as important so you need to divide your time. Besides, if you spend all your time with him you’ll just be smothering him. Don’t suffocate your man; go out and have fun. Join a club, find a hobby. As long as it’s something that keeps you from smothering him with your love and attention.
- Acting stupid
If you are smart then you are smart; no need to pretend that you aren’t. As a matter of fact, you don’t have to pretend to be stupid just to make your man feel intelligent. If you know how to change a flat tire or a light bulb, don’t pretend you don’t. Believe it or not, men like it when their women show them they are capable of taking care of things.
- Letting him control you
He loves you but wants to control your finances, which friends you hang out with, what you eat and what you wear. Please, that’s not love…that’s B.S. Yes, there’s the whole notion that women should let their men be dominant in the relationship but we are no longer in the 1950s where women had to do everything a man said. And if a man tries to control you, he must be suffering from inferiority complex issues. In simple language, he prefers to control his women in order to feel powerful.
- Acting like his wife
If he hasn’t put a ring on it, don’t act like he has. Yes, yes, we know you’re thinking that if you perform your wifely duties he will see that you’ll make a great wife and won’t hesitate to marry you. But, believe it or not, your man already made up his mind a long time ago whether he wanted to make you his wife or not. So you don’t have to try so hard to show him you can make a great wife.
Clearly there are certain aspects of your personality that shouldn’t change for a man no matter how much you love him. You have to be true to yourself in order to be true to your relationship. Besides, there’s no guarantee that you will benefit from the relationship once you sacrifice everything for a man. Imagine sacrificing everything only to find out that he’s been cheating on you or worse, he is getting married to someone else. Now that would be a real deal breaker. by Lisa P.